Hazel Davis responds to a letter about the regulation and ethics of surrogacy<\/p>\n
I wish to respond to Lexi Ellingsworth\u2019s letter (Regulation cannot eliminate surrogacy risks, 23 July). I gave birth to a baby for my friends in January. While the baby is living with its parents, my husband and I are the legal parents. We are waiting for our family court date in September to recognise the\u00a0baby\u2019s biological parents as legal parents.<\/p>\n
My surrogacy story started when my sister suffered complications following the birth of her first child. After a second difficult birth, the doctors told her that it wouldn\u2019t be safe for her to carry any more children. I became an auntie via surrogacy when my sister\u2019s friend\u00a0carried her third child. Now\u00a0my niece is a determined five\u2011year-old, just as much a part of\u00a0the family as her older siblings, and I see no evidence that her origins have any impact.<\/p>\n
In 2023, some friends confided they had joined SurrogacyUK as they hoped to start a family, but needed some help. David had been my husband\u2019s best friend since primary school, and my friend since university, and is now our daughter\u2019s godfather.<\/p>\n
They were very surprised when I offered to be their surrogate. I\u00a0was aware of the risks, but I was surrounded by support. During the pregnancy, our friends recorded children\u2019s stories. I played these through little speakers on my belly so the baby would recognise their parents\u2019 voices from birth.<\/p>\n
The legal challenges were highlighted when their baby became extremely unwell at only 11 days old. My husband and I \u2013 as legal parents \u2013 were glued to our phones in case the hospital needed us to consent to medical tests. His parents were at his bedside, ready to make those decisions. The law is not acting in the best interests of the children.<\/p>\n
To those who wish to protect me by denying me the choice to use my body to help my friends, your concern is misguided. Susan\u00a0Golombok, professor emerita\u00a0of family research at the University of Cambridge, wrote in April that a 20-year study of UK surrogacy families had \u201cfound no evidence of widespread psychological harm to children, parents, or surrogates\u201d.<\/p>\n
Our friends\u2019 baby will grow up knowing where they came from, how much they were wanted and how much they are loved.Hazel DavisTrustee, SurrogacyUK Foundation<\/p>\n
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